Six Truths for Weary Bloggers

I was chatting with friends recently, and it became very clear to me that there is a process when it comes to blogging. We go through similar stages and phases. We experiences highs and lows. We are certain of ourselves then completely unsure. It seems to be quite common.

But it doesn't feel that way when you're in the midst of it.

It feels very isolating. It feels like failure. It may even feel like quitting.

There is a lot of competition in the blogging world, which can be discouraging. And coupled with self-doubt, blogging can become a chore instead of a way to express ourselves creatively and tell our stories. Stories that we need to share for our own healing and growing, and for the benefit of others too.

Today I wanted to share some truths I've learned about blogging for those who are in the weary stage of it all.

1. Your blog may not blow up. Ever. - There are many reasons why this is true. The number one reason is likely due to the fact that the blogosphere is oversaturated. But also, as my friend Michelle pointed out, most of us are now consuming our blog posts, and other articles through social media. It's what our friends/family/colleagues share through their social media channels that are we are clicking on. That plays a major role in driving traffic. Finally, the blogosphere may be oversaturated but it's also a very big space that sometimes feels small. You may think a blogger is huge, but in the grand scheme of things they are not. The ones that are huge are the exception, not the rule.

2. You should still have one. - If you plan on making a career for yourself in writing, then you need a blog. Agents and publishers will check you out. There needs to be something there. And with the simplicity of the process today, you can have a simple site up in sixty minutes.

3. You will probably get bored - How long is one person supposed to stay the same? What's the cap on that? Take the seven-year-itch and divide it by two - that seems like a reasonable amount of time to expect someone to remain stagnant in their content. I've talked to so many bloggers who face this challenge: they've grown, changed, become bored with writing about the same thing. How does one evolve and bring their blogging along with them?

4. You will ask yourself why you're doing this. - It's a wall that we all hit at some point or another: what am I doing all this work for? And it's a very important conversation to have with yourself. What are your writing goals? Do you want a book published? Do you want to make money through blogging? Are you treating your blog as a business? The answer to these questions will determine where you need to be focusing your efforts because...

5. You will have to choose between blogging & something else. Most of us have to make a living somehow. Either we are working full time, or raising children, or both. There is always something else that demands our immediate attention and will win it. That leaves us with little time for anything else - for getting closer to accomplishing our dreams. And the reality is, blogging is often a stepping stone: it's not the ultimate goal. But it's scary to step back. For many of us, our blogs feel like home. But the more we hold on to the comfort, the longer it will take to see our dreams through.

6. Quality > Quantity. If you are at that point where you have to step away from your blog a bit, fear not. Quality > quantity. I'd rather read a personal blog entry from the heart a million times over a product review. I would rather hear an update from you every three months than be bombarded with your every move. And I'm not alone. Whatever you decide to do - the majority of your readers aren't going to bail on you.




On Change...

Of the many fears that consume us as a species, the fear of change may be atop the list. It begins when we’re youngsters: imagine the tearful goodbye as a parent leaves their child on the first day of day care or preschool. Normally there is an adjustment period there for both parent and child, and it’s not often a pretty one.

The same is true for all changes in life: the transition from middle school to high school, moving away from home for the first time, working a full-time job fresh out of college. We’re creatures of comfort living in a world where we are forced to systemically evolve for our first two decades of life.

During that time, however, we just do it. We don’t really complain (not to anyone who could change the outcome anyway). We follow protocol, and in the end, we hopefully leave that period of time evolved in a significant way; mostly in the areas of education and social behavior.

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Distractions & Solitude

Have you spent much time alone in your life? Have you ever lived by yourself? Have you traveled without company?

I grew up in a busy home with two siblings and a revolving door welcoming family and friends any time – the house was never quiet! When I moved away from my parents home at 18 the trend of chaos continued, and as I grew older I began to realize that I really preferred it this way: I despised being alone.

Back in 2011 when I launched my exploration into spirituality and mindfulness, I began to understand that my disdain for solitude was revealing that something important was missing in my life. I was avoiding myself, and instead of trying to figure out exactly what I was avoiding, I let distractions fill in the void.

Continue reading over on the Thin Difference blog...

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New Book Details

I promised I'd share details about my forthcoming book when they were available - and today is the day. Below is an overview of Because of All You May Become, a collaboration between myself and Monique Coleman, an actress/humanitarian that uses her voice to help change the world and inspire others to do the same. I promise to share more details about the release as they become available.

Thank you for your support & encouragement along the way!


Because of All You May Become

Written by Monique Coleman & Heidi Oran

Coming Spring 2015...

Each of us share a common truth: below the surface we are dreamers. We dream of happiness, love, and living our purpose. We dream of finding meaningful work, changing the world, and leaving a legacy for others to follow. Often the seeds are planted in our early childhood and youth -  we spend hours daydreaming of the life we hope to live in the future. As the years pass and we hit our teens and twenties, the challenges begin to stack up and we lose our way. The reality is that loss in unavoidable, fear will show up when you least expect it, and disappointment is inevitable.

Because of All You May Become aims to guide young people through these challenges, by staying true to three core principles: we need to take ownership of who we are, move from inspiration to action, and challenge our perception of the world, approaching life with renewed clarity. Through an exploration into our inner world, this book will offer you inspiration, practical ideas, and tangible takeaways to help you unlock your full potential and move closer to living a life of meaning, purpose and joy.

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Thank you!



Having Many Passions - Blessing or Curse?

I have been blessed/cursed - depending on how you look at it - with many passions. From stepping on a stage and performing in a play, to playing different instruments and singing, to  writing short stories and blogging - the list of my passions could go on for hours. And I'm not even exaggerating, there are ALL PASSIONS.

For a long time I felt like I was alone, but now I know that I'm just one of the many multi-passionate individuals out there.

But is it, as I suggested above, a blessing or a curse?

I assure you, it can get pretty frustrating feeling a tug in so many directions. But at the same time, I love exploring the different directions.

To read my thoughts, continue reading here.


Blogging about Leadership at Thin Difference

Over the past few years I had been following the insights of Jon Mertz, Founder of the company Thin Difference. Thin Difference is a space that is meant to "guide, inspire, and challenge Millennials in their leadership and life skills." And what drew me to TD, is that Jon understands that mindfulness and spirituality play a big role in being a great leader.

This summer Jon put a call out for some Millennial voices to contribute to the TD blog, and I was honoured to be selected as one of them. This month, my article, Learning How to Handle Failure discusses the pressure that so many young people today face to accomplish great things early on in life. I also share some tips on how to transform our perceived failures into growth opportunities. Here is an excerpt:

                                                                             Photo via Thin Difference

                                                                             Photo via Thin Difference

When I was in my twenties I experienced what I’ve heard numerous twenty-somethings lament over: The pressure to accomplish! A quick Google search of 20-Something Lists will provide you with an unlimited array of “25 Things You MUST DO Before 30,” or “50 Books You Must Read by 25,” or “30 Countries You Must Visit By 30!” (I may have exaggerated on the last one, but you get the picture.)

It’s no secret that Millennials have been highly pressured since childhood. Yes, we did receive trophy’s just for showing up, but perhaps that helped to offset the incredible stress that striving-to-be-the-best-in-everything caused. But what happens to children who face that stress during their formative years? I think the abundance of lists floating around the internet remind us of what we must accomplish. So we continue to strive.



You can continue reading the full article here. (And be sure to check out my previous two articles by clicking here.)





New Sam Harris Book Hits the Shelves - "Waking Up"

Have you ever heard of Sam Harris? I was introduced to him about a year ago via my brother-in-law, Eric. He brought up a copy of Free Will, one of Harris' books, so that I could check out his work. We had been chatting about science, religion, atheism, etc... and Harris has been writing about the subject for years.

I ended up watching a debate between Harris and Deepak Chopra before I read the book. That was a mistake because his personality turned me off right away and I couldn't bring myself to finish the book. I found him a little arrogant - especially in contrast to Deepak, who I find genuine. (Though I do have issues with the exorbitant fees Deepak charges for his retreats and courses!)

But I've also read Harris' blog off and on because I appreciate his perspective, and I think it's safe to say he's grown on me.

A few days ago my friend Michelle emailed and mentioned that Harris had a new book coming out this week. I checked out his site and learned that the book is called, Waking Up: A Guide to Spirituality Without Religion.

I just listened to the audio sample of Chapter 1, and I like where it's headed.

I know many of you would be interested in this book, so here is a link to his site where you can check out the sample for yourself. If you read/listen, share your thoughts! I'll do the same when I am done.

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The Role of Acceptance in Your Life + How to Implement it

Acceptance is powerful. So powerful, in fact, that I consider it one of the top five elements of a conscious perspective.

The more we hold on to something, whether it be a belief, a dream, an idea of how something should be, or a person  - the more power it holds over us and our own sense of well-being. It's only when we accept that it holds the power, that it can return to us. It's also a critical element in the search for inner peace: how can we have true peace without fully embracing all of the imperfections in life? If we don't we're still fighting.

The concept of acceptance is pretty straight forward, right? Like so many other things it's the implementation that is a challenge.

Just recently I had my own difficulty with implementing the concept. There was a situation that has been extremely frustrating to me for years, and as hard as I'd worked to accept it, it had always been this thorn in my side.

Then it hit me (and also broke my brain...): I needed to accept that I couldn't accept it.

Much like the first step in overcoming fear is calling it out by name - we need to treat acceptance the same.

It was really that simple. Admitting to myself that I couldn't accept the situation allowed me to lay the groundwork for healing to begin.  All of those years I was resisting this truth and I missed this critical first step of the process. (It's all a process isn't it?)


I've made it my mission this year to work on taking life less seriously, and I know a lot of you are trying too.  We're at this interesting point in our busy, over-scheduled, over-worked society that we actually need to consciously work toward living a less serious, more enjoyable life.

While all of this personal growth work is HARD work, it's also necessary to get to that less serious place. So onward we go. Dealing with each situation as it arises.


Is there any situation/dream/person/reality that you're having a hard time accepting?