I love the internet - it's been good to me. It's given me opportunities I probably never would have had, and found me friendships that are as good as they come. It's helped me to find my own voice, and ultimately, played a huge role helping to overcome my quarter-life crisis and bring me to this here sacred space.
But as with everything, there is a dark side too.
How many times have checked out the Facebook page of a competitor and compared their number of likes to your own?
How many times have you landed on blogs/other businesses doing EXACTLY what you vision for yourself, but maybe you perceive it as better?
I know I'm guilty here - and I bet you are too.
Last year there was a Jon Acuff quote circulating Pinterest that said, "Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle."
Because we do right?
We never think about how many years that other person has been blogging or been an entrepreneur - we just take what we see at face value and compare.
We don't know how much money they've put into their work. How many things they've tried out that failed. We just assume they have simply been lucky or landed on the right thing right away.
There are a lot of assumptions happening - and it feels involuntary on our part - like a reflex. (Because it is.)
But if you look closely at these individuals you will see that the reason they are doing so well is because they know themselves - they have that authenticity that we all so desperately seek. Not an easy feat in a world saturated with multi-talented, multi-passionate people.
But there is something that you can do that can really change your life, and your business, and here it is:
DO YOUR OWN THING!
Don't look to others for examples of a success model. Because you don't know the whole story.
Don't put yourself into a category with them. You are not them. You have different talents and strengths.
The bottom line is that you need to look forward and create a space for yourself in the world. CREATE a space. Don't worry about if there is one and where you fit in.
Do you struggle with authenticity? Do you lose your way when you get sucked in by the comparison game? Share below!
PS. If you need help on this journey toward authenticity, I'm here!